Dave Phillips

Dave is an experienced executive mentor who has been working with CEOs and business leaders all over North America full-time for the past decade and as a board member and senior adviser for the last 20 years. I suppose you could say he is unofficially sat on and continues to sit on dozens of boards of small and medium-size businesses.

He works with chief executives in companies ranging from a few million in sales to a few billion in sales. Dave is somewhat unique as his clients describe him as a mentor who covers everything from the boardroom to the bedroom. Business is challenging but not nearly as challenging as making your life and relationships work well. Frankly, it’s very difficult to construct a well lived life alone.

Dave is also a specialist in Birkman Method Assessments, which provide powerful tools to help with many life issues.

If you have any questions or if you would just like to speak with Dave briefly please feel free to call him on his direct line at 604-987-7531 or send an e-mail to dave@dphillips.com.

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Birkman Method Assessments

Birkman is a multi faceted, broad based behavioral assessment that offers very helpful, practical information providing recipients with powerful tools to help with decisions about important areas including relationships and career direction.

This tool creates a graphic four-dimensional portrait of individuals and team members, their interests an goals, operating styles, underlying needs, and behavior under stress — all factors that govern personal and organizational productivity. The Birkman Method ® can be used when addressing a variety of issues including:

  • Personal Growth and development
  • Marriage and family (includes comparative and relationship building reports)
  • Job Selection and Placement
  • Employee Review Process
  • Teambuilding
  • Conflict Resolution
  • Mentoring

This is a very comprehensive assessment on you. In my view it’s something every adult should have as it provides an objective behavioral baseline for virtually all of the significant decisions you’ll make in our life. In other words you’ll just have a much better idea of what will and won’t work for you.

You'll make better decisions with Birkman.

For more information go to: http://dphillips.com/birkman.php

Peters View of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is designed around the hopes and challenges of each client couple.

The first step in our works will be to decide together on why we're meeting, what we are hoping to accomplish and how we plan to do that. During this goal setting my job is to help you to say everything we need to know, ensuring our goals are relevant and realistic. I may also give you some questionnaires to help identify your relationship's strengths and challenges.

The remainder of the therapy will be informed and directed by this assessment step. It may be that your friendship and affection is strong, but you are poor at problem solving, and arguing too much. If so, that's our focus. It may be that the years have taken a toll on your connection. Or you may be in the middle of a crisis caused by something outside of your control (health, financial losses, job crises). Or maybe there is a crisis caused by a violation of trust or fidelity within your relationship. My role is to support, inform, guide and coach you as you reach for sustainable solutions to your greatest concerns.

Our time together will also help you to rediscover and enjoy the parts of your relationship that really work well. Although it may be the challenges in your relationship that brings you to counseling, reflecting on the good things, smiling or even laughing together is not unusual.

Peters View of Individual Therapy

My goal is to help you get "outside the box" which has captured or restrained you from reaching your hopes and aspirations. I like an approach that balances your desire to change with the reality that some changes are "easier said than done. Individual therapy attempts to be a concentrated version of healthy living, providing just the right mix of support and challenge as you reach for your goals.

It is very important to establish some way of measuring progress and success in individual counseling. Although I will certainly help you establish these guidelines for our work, you are the boss. In that sense, I am guided by your best interests; bringing perspective, experience, information and strategies for change to the table.

Warning: It is possible to find some lightness and humor to most personal challenges. Having said that, if you weren't facing some pretty important and serious concerns, we wouldn't be meeting.

Peter's View of Family Therapy with Teens

Your family with teenagers… Suddenly there is a lot on the line. As parents, (my kids are 25, 23, and 19) we all fluctuate between times of gratefulness for the amazing blessing that our children bring into our lives and the fear that our offspring are doomed to make themselves miserable and take us down with them.

In the midst of the best and the worst of my family life with teens sits family therapy. The goal is simple: An honest, respectful dialogue about parents' fears and hopes for their teens and the young adults' rights and responsibilities. As everyone approaches "launch date", the parents are attempting the right balance between tough love & expectations and a safety net. The teens are reaching for the right balance between being their own boss and respecting the love and wisdom of their older family members.

Remember that bumper sticker, "Insanity is hereditary; you get it from your kids!" There is no doubt that the ride can be wild. But hang on to your hats and your hearts. There almost always is a path forward to the successful launch of a young adult while also allowing family relationships to be preserved. Sometimes parents are interested in coming to sessions without their teen, hoping for some perspective or support during this challenging chapter in family life. This is a great idea. Sometimes, teens want to talk to an adult outside the family, also hoping for some perspective or support. This can be very helpful to the family and the teen.

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

Gottman Method Therapy (GMT) is based on the ground-breaking and scientifically rigorous research of Dr. John Gottman (www.gottman.com/speakers/john_gottman).

His 35 years of studying the relationships reveal the secrets of success practiced by the couples he referred to as "masters of marriage". These marriages not only survive, they also thrive through good and bad times. Gottman also discovered the predictable and often preventable habits that plagued the "disasters of marriage". He has authored forty books and 200 articles on his findings, including the New York Times' bestseller "The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work".

One of Gottman's most significant breakthroughs was integrating his research findings with the theory and practice of couple's therapy. This led to the founding of The Gottman Institute by Drs. John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman. Following the demonstrated success of this unique blending of therapy and science, The Gottman Institute invited therapists from across North America to apply for training and undergo an extensive certification process. Peter Vaughan was the first Certified Gottman therapist outside of the USA.

More Information about Peter

Peter is the principal of West Vancouver Therapy, co-founder of TGIM Group Inc. and Greater Vancouver Therapy Inc. and previous Executive Director of Burnaby Counseling Group. Peter was pleased to be the first therapist outside the USA to be certified in Gottman Method Therapy. He is also a certified Gottman Couples Workshop leader and was the first Canadian to present Gottman's two day professional workshop, "Marital Therapy: A Research Based Approach". He has provided therapy and workshops to individuals, couples and families since 1982; and consultation and training to groups and organizations since 1990. Peter's M.A. in counseling psychology specialized in systemic theory and practice. He is a Registered Clinical Counselor and a Registered Social Worker in the province of British Columbia, Canada.

Peter also specializes in providing executive coaching to leaders in both the corporate and non-profit sectors and to professionals. Peter believes that the Gottman Institute's research into relationships is highly relevant to corporate and organizational health. With a special interest in assisting family businesses, he is a past member of the Professional Advisory Committee of UBC's Business Families Centre. Peter and his wife Drusilla have been vigorously married for 30 years, and have two daughters (25 & 23) and a son (19).

Workshops for Couples

Peter has been leading workshops for couples since 1986, mostly using material which he personally authored and created. Since 2006 his interest in couple's workshops has focused on helping couples to access and benefit from the ground-breaking research of Dr. John Gottman.

Gottman's 35 years of studying relationships reveal the secrets of success practiced by the couples he refers to as as "masters of marriage". These marriages not only survive, they also thrive through good and bad times. Gottman also discovered the predictable and often preventable habits that plagued the "disasters of marriage". He has authored forty books and 200 articles on his findings, including the New York Times' bestseller "The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work".

Peter will bring Gottman's research alive with stories from his own marriage of 29 years, enhanced by PowerPoint slides and short clips from Hollywood movies and TV advertisements.